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Self Love..

Hey Guys!!! The content below has been solely written by a dear friend of mine, Anand Singh. 
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Hello everyone! So, this is my first post for the wonderful Subhashree Malla’s blog, “Trell And Apparel.” 

I used to read many blogs back in the day; from self-help ones to how to make alcohol at home! Since then, I have visited many places and met many kinds of people. Suffice to say, I have seen things man”. I thought, why not write down what I have learnt over the years in the hope that even if it does not help you dear reader, it might give you some food for thought. So, for my first post I would like to talk about taking care of yourself.

There is a song in Hindi which goes, 
“Humko man ki shakti dena, man vijay kare, dusro ki jay se
pehle, khud go jaye kare”. 

The reason I bring up this song is because it focuses on first making oneself victorious. Broadly speaking, well being can be classified into mental and physical well being. Physical well-being has received and still continues to receive more weightage as and when compared to mental well-being. Yet, they are connected. 

Usually physical well-being is seen as doing exercises. As someone who has done it on and off, I have felt better whenever I have exercised. Leaving the more obvious benefits of becoming healthier, it also increases mental strength. 
Then you keep pushing yourself every day, you develop discipline and a willingness to move out of your comfort zone. All adventures begin when you are willing to move out of your comfort zone. In fact, years down the line, when you look back at the hard work you did and what it accomplished, you will feel proud. In fact, I have come to believe that there is one person you ought to love and that is your Future Self.

Just like how you take care of a loved one, and help them improve, think about your future self in the same way. Not just exercises, but also it is important to care about your looks. While there are negative connotations about giving your looks too much importance, a certain level of care can be empowering. It is about loving and respecting yourself. Wearing well fitted clothes and getting a good haircut makes you feel more confident. You do not have to buy expensive clothes or perfumes for this, it is about finding what works for you.

Tied to my points about working out, it is also important to find a hobby. You may not always turn it into your career, but it offers you an escape from your every day life. When you follow your passion, it can spark a new change to your personality. You learn to think differently. For example, I work as a Software Engineer and I love doing Photography. It has made me more observant of my surroundings. Sometimes I think whether a scene I am looking at is worth taking a photo of or not. It has made me more patient and appreciate the beauty around me. I end up meeting new people because of it and few of them have now become good friends.

Meditation has been on the spotlight for some time now and I would highly recommend it. While it might not work for you, I would suggest trying it. It too has taught me to be calm and especially, to calm myself down when things are not going well. It also teaches patience and a willingness to step away from overthinking and be calm, if even for a little while. There are different kinds of meditations, so you will have to explore what works for you.

So, dear reader, these are some of the lessons I have learnt. You might feel that I should expanded more on these but then it would have filled an entire book! I look forward to hearing your opinions. 
Cheerio.

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